Regarding attachment personality, it is generally divided into three types. The first is the secure type, the second is the avoidant type, and the third is the anxious type. So what is anxious attachment personality? In fact, for girls with anxious attachment personality, what they have for their partners is not love and trust, but a state of emotional hunger. How should I pursue a girl with anxious attachment personality? How can we make her feel safe in her relationship?
How to woo a girl with anxious attachment personality
1. Try to understand her first
A girl with an anxious attachment personality will always use anxiety to cover up her fear and uneasiness of being abandoned. She often has a hope that the other person can save her and make her psychologically more complete. A little full. A common manifestation of this kind of girl is that she is very eager for intimate companionship, to the extent that she wants to maintain a very close contact with the opposite party at all times, so those who can't stand it should be careful to pursue them, and don't chase them later and say that they behave like this It's really suffocating, so that's your problem.
The most important thing is that girls with anxious attachment personality will deliberately not reply to messages, or break up to get your attention, or they want you to coax her. What may make people more uncomfortable is that once you fail to meet her expectations and expectations, she may become restless, but she may also retreat to please the other person because she is afraid of being alone, and then lower herself to please her partner. , and then often fall into this kind of contradiction.
2. Lead, shape, guide
Some brothers who hear this may say that I already like it What should we do with girls with this kind of anxious attachment personality? Don’t worry, there are still ways to help you. Remember the following keywords: leading, shaping, and guiding. Give her the ability to build self-confidence, create a safe space for each other, guide her to see the nature of her emotions, and prevent her from seeing her own heart unclearly because of her anxious attachment personality.
Generally, boys who can do these three things have already chased girls with anxious attachment personality. Why? Because in this process, girls have gradually relied on you and opened their hearts to you. Love should not be so restrained from the beginning. It requires mutual guidance and does not require you to please deliberately. It requires two people to work hard together.
In short, when we like a girl, we don’t pay much attention to her personality. Maybe you only know that she has an anxious attachment personality after you find out that you like her. Don’t worry at this time. Don't give up just because it's hard to catch. As long as you use the right method, you can get the love you want.
