I have recently received requests for help from several fans, all of whom were recovering from breakups. After I learned more about it, I found that it was basically because there was no sense of boundaries in love, which led to the breakdown of the relationship.
This reminds me that a netizen asked this question before: Are boys unable to distinguish green tea? Immediately Someone gave the answer, not that they couldn't tell the difference, but that they were unwilling to tell it.
So much so that similar questions came to my mind:
What should I do if my boyfriend has a girlfriend with whom he has a close relationship?
Boyfriend What should I do if I am a couple with my best friend?
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I think you often see this type of video on Douyin, here is one All the questions emphasize the "sense of boundaries"! So today I will give you some popular science. What does the sense of boundaries mean? Should boundaries be maintained in love?
What is the sense of boundaries? h2>
To put it simply, it is as if a person has drawn a boundary around himself. Within this boundary, the individual feels that he is an independent person, and this boundary does not allow others to intrude.
In a relationship, a very easy dilemma is that partners cannot maintain appropriate boundaries. Especially couples in love, it is easy to feel that we are integrated, I am you, you are I. Love may be self-consistent, but once the hormone concentration drops, it is possible that such borderless integration will bring some conflicts between partners.
The sense of boundaries may be reflected in the body, space, self-perception, etc.
The sense of physical boundaries means that everyone will have a certain comfortable distance for others to approach. For example, some people’s comfortable social distance is 1 meter, and some people may be further away. So when When someone breaks through this distance limit, you will feel uncomfortable and will subconsciously make some movements such as crossing your chest or even retreating.
The sense of spatial boundary means that I will demarcate some areas, which may only be open to limited people, or even this space belongs to me alone, and no one can come in. At this time, these spaces seem to become an extension of yourself.
The sense of boundary in self-awareness means what kind of value judgments I have about myself, what I care about, what I don’t care about, what I can decide, and I can leave certain decisions to others. . I get angry when someone tries to cross that line and decide something for me.
Of course, no matter how close we are in a relationship, the undeniable fact is that we are always two independent individuals with our own experiences, thoughts, feelings, and intentions. Like two independent circles, IThey are attracted to each other and are close to each other, but probably the best position is where the two circles have a part of the intersection and a part of the independent area.
Should boundaries be maintained in love?
The world of love is always you + me = us. It is a story of two people. So maintaining a sense of boundaries is our most basic responsibility. After all, no one's feelings can tolerate a third person. What do you think?
