Today I found a very realistic topic that I want to discuss with you. Many of my friends may have encountered it and were in a dilemma. So how did you choose? Let’s take a look at what I have prepared for you today. ——"Which is more important to a man, love or future?"
"Future" is the main line of life, and "love" can be encountered but cannot be forced.
We often say that before you love others, you must first learn to love yourself unconditionally. A person without "self" cannot have the "ability to love others", and the establishment of "self" comes from unconditionally supporting oneself. , focus on and cherish every moment, do the things you are responsible for well, constantly connect deeply with things, get positive feedback and a sense of accomplishment, and then build deep self-confidence and the ability to take charge of your own life.
When your condition improves and your IQ and EQ continue to improve, you will have the ability to not harm others, be able to "treat others well" and "cooperate with others", and then you will be able to handle love and get along well.
A person who knows how to love will handle his own life responsibly and be able to love others.
People who give up their "future" for "love" regard the "illusion of love" as more important than "responsible for one's own life", and are potentially "shirking the responsibility of life".
"Taking another person more seriously" is also a manifestation of "no self". In real life, there is often no "prospect" Some people are also not good at love, and they often end up in a sadomasochistic relationship where they consume each other and blame each other.
"Self-love" and "selfishness" are two different things.
People with "self-love" know how to love and support themselves unconditionally, have experienced kindness themselves, and have a "sense of self-worth" built from within, so they can love and support others unconditionally, and sincerely "cooperate with others" can Experience unconditional love flowing between each other.
"Selfishness" comes from inner lack and is hostile to the outside world. It reversely builds a "sense of self-worth" by "asking for more external resources", and will be very aggressive and has no "cooperation with others". "If you don't like it, you will often be overbearing on the outside, and you will be pushy on the inside, and your intimate relationship will be in a mess.
So, personally, I don’t want you to give up your future because of love. So for you, what do you think?
