Question: I have known my girlfriend for many years, but I didn’t know much about her before, and we only got together in the past year. We have also gone on trips together, but we have always slept separately. This is what my girlfriend insists on. She said that we must be sure that we can get married. We also have kisses, but they are not deep or active. Then she didn’t disclose her relationship on social networks (such as WeChat Moments), but her friends did know that we were together, and she once took me to meet her friends. Now I am very confused, does she love me or not? Why is my girlfriend not willing to give me her first time? (I love her very much. To be honest, I am willing to marry her and take care of her for the rest of my life, but I am always worried that she will not love me)
What should I do if my girlfriend doesn’t want to give me the first time?
Answer: I don’t know if your girlfriend has ever been in love. If she is a very conservative girl, she will I am very cautious and will only say that I am sure I can get married. Because I don’t know the specific situation of my girlfriend, I can’t give an evaluation, but I can give some suggestions:
Based on the situation you described , your girlfriend can’t say she doesn’t love you. It is impossible that she has no feelings for you at all. It may be due to the girl's ideological concept. She thinks that the first time is as important as choosing a husband. I don’t think this is a good thing. In fact, if she really believes it and you accompany her, then her first time will still be yours. It’s just a matter of time.
You You need to wait, give her enough security and trust, communicate more, and wait for her if you really love her. Maybe it’s not that she doesn’t want to give it to you, but she just doesn’t want to give it to you now.
Of course, I think you must be sincere when facing this kind of problem, be sincere to yourself and be sincere to your girlfriend. If your girlfriend insists on having sex after marriage, but you are opposed to this idea. If she feels that you are not good enough now, but she still has expectations for you, then set a time and do your best within the time. achieve the maximum possible.
If she is still picky about you, don’t hesitate to break up with her quickly. Your values ????are likely to be quite different. You think it is important to accompany and care for your partner. Your partner may value whether your career is decent, whether your income can meet her ideal life line, and whether your communication skills are good. It can help her solve real problems. The relationship is not just between you and me floating in the sky.
I have actually seen how realistic girls can be towards boys. Don’t be so love-minded. I will give myself to you. Maybe your girlfriend doesn’t care at all. She doesn’t need you. She needs you. Anyone can be her as long as she meets her needs, but it might be better if it is you who have more past experiences with her. No matter how true and deep the love between you and her is, youAfter all, they are independent individuals. I hope you will understand these words well and don't act like a fool, so that you can take the initiative in your relationship.
