I found that for many friends, not being able to chat seems to be a flaw! So how can we chat without being silent? What are the topics for chatting? , this type of question is especially popular with male friends, so today the editor has chosen the topic "What to do when the first blind date ends in a cold chat" for you to discuss. Let's take a look together.
1. Ask for opinions instead of "I know"
When the other person states something to you When something, such as the current hot spot, means that this matter gave her more feelings. If you say "What do you think about this matter" at this time, it means that you are very curious about what he shares.
This sentence is often the key sentence that opens up the conversation between both parties, and even opens up the hearts.
2. Use the magic phrase "Tell me about it".
Most people start a chat with closed-ended questions. For example, ask the other party "Do you like the movie 'Detective Chinatown 3'?" If the other party replies "Yes", the conversation is over.
At this time, how to deepen the topic?
You can follow up by saying, "I missed this movie at the time. Can you tell me what it said?" , then the topic will be discussed in depth.
3. Use the "you xx" sentence pattern instead of the "I xx" sentence pattern
Sentences that begin with "I..." focus on your own perceptions and opinions. Once this starts, the other person will lose interest in continuing the conversation.
If you then ask a question that starts with "you", the situation will be very different. The other person can feel your sincerity and that you really want to understand the other person.
4. Start with a topic that the other person likes
If you are chatting with boys, talk more about passionate and sports topics; if you are chatting with girls, talk more about food and emotional issues. Because boys like rationality and girls like sensibility, this is determined by the characteristics of boys and girls.
If you learn the above 4 skills, I believe you will not be troubled by the cold spots in the chat, so have you learned it?
