Chasing girls is very particular about methods. If you use the wrong method, no matter how much time and energy you spend on this girl, it will be in vain. So how can you chase the girl you like?
First of all, we must know that compared to us who focus on results, girls pay more attention to process. From the perspective of evolutionary psychology, the physiological needs of men and women are different. In the process of growing up, boys’ sexual needs account for the majority, and girls’ emotional needs account for the majority. main body.
Boys will use short movies to satisfy their sexual needs, while girls will use romantic idol dramas to pursue romance, touch and the feeling of being cared for.
The romance, touching, and illogical emotions in idol dramas perfectly meet this emotional need.
In most cases, it can simply and directly meet the needs of girls just like we need to eat when we are hungry, sleep when we are sleepy, and get started when we feel the urge.
But why can idol dramas allow girls to devote themselves wholeheartedly to the pink bubble of love?
According to the most criticized routine of idol dramas, the handsome and wealthy Daoming Si falls in love with Shancai at first sight, but Shancai hates the smell of copper on his body. Although the road to chasing girls is bumpy, Daoming Si's original intention remains unchanged and he only loves Shancai. Shancai's face turned red and her heart beat. Isn't this dog licking?
That's right, what girls don't like is called "licking", and what girls like is called "attracting".
Obviously, Daoming Temple’s attraction to Shancai has less to do with his hard values ??such as being handsome and rich, and more to do with his soft values.
Therefore, we can put aside the money, wealth, and appearance BUFFs of the male protagonists of idol dramas, and discuss how to attract the girls you like through soft values ??in real life.
First of all, let’s clarify a concept. The soft value in love includes our character, self-cultivation, emotional intelligence and love knowledge, etc. In one sentence, it means whether you can fall in love or not.
If you want to fall in love with the girl you like, the first step is to establish your own attraction. I know that many people "die" at this step before they get started.
We boys are visual animals, and in most cases we can quickly judge whether the other person is our type.
But girls are different from us. Because the cost of childbearing has been high for women since ancient times, it is difficult for them to immediately judge whether the opposite sex in front of them is suitable. Instead, they will choose to make the best choice through long-term observation.
For us, it is very important to establish a unique law of attraction when we have not been in contact with girls for a long time. Of course, this is not something that can be accomplished at once. Let’s briefly mention a few key points. .
1. Verbal communication should be more important than physical contact
Verbal communication conveys more than just informationbreath, and emotions. For example, if you always express negative emotions when you are in contact with a girl, negative emotions will form a fixed thinking navigation, and you can easily become her emotional trash can.
She will not like you because of this, because when she comes to you, she will be filled with negative emotions. Even when she is in a good mood, her mood will change when you appear due to the emotional connection. Difference.
Over time, you will comfort her when she is unhappy, but you will not be around when she is happy. Then if you confess your love to her, she will definitely say: "You are a very good person, but we are only suitable to be friends." . ”
Therefore, we must establish a positive emotional connection with girls in a general direction.
As a result, many friends fell into another misunderstanding and made a cheerful joke in front of her.
You can obviously be very happy together, why do you have to turn your "girlfriend" into a real "brother"?
Because girls have already formed a crush on you after getting to know you. A kind of thinking inertia, whatever you say and do is within her expectation.
This is equivalent to you doing the same thing every day. She already knows everything about you, and there is no need to explore anymore, so there is no attraction.
2. Stimulate her desire to explore
The correct approach is to only reveal the iceberg every time she chats A corner to stimulate her desire to explore.
When you fall in love, you don’t have to show your cards right away. The first time you meet, it’s like expressing your love to a girl. Even Daoming Si can’t resist it, let alone you?
< p> For example, learn from idol dramas and pretend to kiss her but only end up removing the dirt on her head, just to make girls think you are unpredictable!Of course, the method of mobilizing emotions every time Just use it once or twice in person.
Otherwise, people will think that you have unstable emotions and are a scumbag.
In love, we all hope that our partner is a deep person.
The same goes for girls. This is why uncles are always so popular, because uncles are worth exploring slowly during their relationship.
Even if boys who don’t know how to mobilize emotions are really deep, they will be innocently labeled as “low experience”.
Finally, all relationships must be comfortable, which requires us to accurately control the intensity of promoting intimacy in each other's relationships.
Only when we master this comfort range can we steadily advance our relationship and gradually become closer.
So, everyone, stop struggling on the wrong pursuit path, learn more from Korean drama Oppas, and make the other person fascinated within her acceptable comfort range.
I know that there must still be friends here who don’t understand what talentsBelongs to comfort range.
This is very simple. In fact, just watch two more Korean dramas and study the male protagonist.
