Many boys are very excited to go to college. They feel that there are no teachers or parents to stop them from falling in love, and they can have a sweet love in college. But when I got to college, I discovered that falling in love is not as easy as imagined. First of all, you have to spend money. What should a boy do if he doesn’t have money for a relationship in college? Is it possible to fall in love without money in college?
As someone who has been there, let me tell you the truth: "If you can pass these three hurdles in college, even if you have no money or good looks, it will be really easy to fall in love." What are these three hurdles? Don't worry, listen to the editor slowly:
1. Not worthy of discussion - shaping personal value
< p> Regardless of men or women, their utilitarianism is the lowest only in college. And many girls really don't care if your family is poor. The last thing they want to come into contact with are often those boys who are "poor and short of ambition."When you were in college, it was really easy to support a girlfriend on your own. There were no worries about car and house loans. It was even said that you only needed to study hard and you could get a girlfriend in one year. The scholarship I received is really more than enough to support my girlfriend. There is also the income from part-time jobs during holidays. It is really not difficult to have a nourishing relationship.
Therefore, I often say this to many boys who want to be single in college: "You can't be handsome, but you can't be clean and tidy. You can have no money, but you can't be unmotivated. You can't just lie down and wait for death."
Why are some college boys clamoring to find a partner every day, but no girls are willing to follow him? In short, in one sentence: He doesn’t even have the most basic self-discipline. He skips class every day and plays games in his dormitory. He doesn’t even have the most basic survival skills. She doesn’t even take a shower, she doesn’t pay attention to her clothes, and she doesn’t even know how to manage her figure.
He vowed “I will get out of singles this year”, but I didn’t even have the slightest motivation to change my sluggish status quo. You don't have money to fall in love when you go to college. This is not your biggest disadvantage. The most important thing is whether you have a unique personal value that can make up for the disadvantage of this family background.
2. No one talks about it - create personal exposure
Why do some boys or girls It's very difficult to be single - because of the school, the ratio of men to women is seriously imbalanced. Don’t believe it? You can go to a school like the Polytechnic University and find out if there is still a slogan circulating on campus: "The male-to-female ratio is seven to one, and one couple will have three gay couples."
But think about it carefully, even if you enter a school with an extremely imbalanced male-female ratio, there will be a few people around you who are very easy to be single, and may even change partners more diligently than you. Why is this? In fact, it's very simple - other people's personal exposure frequency is higher than yours.
Think about your college life.How? There are classes to attend, but no classes to stay in the dormitory. You hang out with people of the same sex every day. You go to work when you are hungry and have almost no contact with the opposite sex. The ratio is out of balance. Naturally, it will not be your turn to be single.
Let’s see what others do? After class, I go to the library to sit for a while. If I have some talent, I join a few clubs. I go to several high-quality external school social activities every week. I have a short vacation on the weekend and I take my new friends there. Travel, and occasionally there is a long vacation, and people can form a young group to travel around.
Not to mention that if someone knows someone of the opposite sex, they can add a WeChat account. But the number of people of the opposite sex passing by in front of them is several times, or even ten times, as many as yours. For such people, sometimes it is difficult not to be single.
3. Don’t dare to talk – serious self-imposed limitations
Most modern Chinese education systems , high schools strictly guard students against premature love, but universities continue to encourage divorce. This has led to many men and women who, when they arrive at university, do not even have the most basic social knowledge and have a serious inferiority complex. They dare not take the initiative when they meet someone they like, and they do not even have the courage to say hello.
"Come on, this girl is so beautiful, why would she like me?"
"Forget it, this girl is so good at dressing up, so don't ask for trouble. Come on!”
You have already preconceived ideas and thought that other girls would look down on you and would surrender without fighting. So why would other girls want to approach you?
To be honest, today’s college girls are really not as snobbish as you see on the Internet. Really good girls like boys who are clean, generous, confident and motivated.
You are not particularly good, and you have a submissive attitude. Those who are more proactive than you may even be someone who is inferior to you in all aspects and take away your love with their own hands. But they still won, but where did they win? Winning is because they have more courage than you. Even if they come from Novice Village, they are more willing to train themselves than you are.
So, lack of money is really not the reason why you can’t find a girlfriend in college. Think more about your own internal reasons, why no girls want to fall in love with you. Don't think of all girls as snobbish girls who only recognize tall, rich and handsome people. Is it because your external management is not good, or you are poor and have no ability, or you are afraid to take the initiative and have no emotional intelligence. These are the key reasons for your repeated failures in love.
