A boy is not born with rich love experience. Love experience is accumulated through failed love experiences again and again. Today I will talk to you about the misunderstandings of boys in love.
What are the misunderstandings among boys in love?
1. Thinking that everything in love is an exchange
Both parties in love really need to provide and show value. But that doesn’t mean everything in love is an exchange.
The essence of love is a process of mutual selection and game. It is very superficial and ridiculous to simply and crudely show your value with money or gifts, or to think that having a certain value can win a girl's heart.
Because when you only know how to give gifts, other competitors may be teasing her emotions and touching her deep feelings.
In this way, your behavior of giving gifts and treating people to meals becomes that you will only spend money to buy gifts and treat people to meals. The value then decreases.
A person’s values ??that can attract the opposite sex are diverse, from appearance and clothing, to emotional interaction, from economic security, to life emotions, comprehensive development and comprehensive attraction are king. Single value means value. drain.
2. Licking until it becomes empty in the end
Only by learning to love yourself first can you give good love to girls. First of all, you must build up self-confidence and have high self-esteem for yourself. I agree, a confident person will make people feel attractive. If you are denying yourself and feel that it is impossible for girls to like you, which saint will come back to save you?
Secondly, don’t limit yourself to your own limitations. If you don’t interact with women in your social circle, how can you understand women?
If you don’t interact with women, how can you know what kind of girl is suitable for you?
3. Dating means not holding your hand
There are several factors in love that are changing all the time and affect the relationship between the two parties. These elements are security, connection, comfort and attraction.
Too many men focus on creating a sense of comfort and do everything based on what makes girls feel comfortable. What is the most comfortable thing?
Undoubtedly, it is done without asking for anything in return. Give and get along without requirements. Many men did so and received a warm and good guy card.
This is not about being nice to girls, but about taking the initiative to upgrade the relationship when you are attracted to girls. We have all walked through the friendship zone, but some people get it overnight, and some people never leave.
Some people know that they should take action when it’s time to take action, and some people focus on comfort and feel that as long as they are with a girl, it is a good thing if the girl feels comfortable, so they have the main choice and the backup tire. .
The friendship zone is a necessary stage when the relationship between two people progresses, but if you get stuck in it, it will become a spare tire.
It is crucial to seize the upgrade window and take that step bravely.
When stepping out of the friendship zone, there are three basic principles. First, dare to be ambiguous, second, seize the window, and third, upgrade.
Therefore, you must learn to create ambiguity, and use "cross-border behaviors" such as physical contact to test the other party. Only by getting confirmation and decisive upgrade can you go from the backup to the main choice and fall in love with each other.
4. Lose yourself
No matter how much you love, you cannot lose yourself. The person a person should love most is himself. No matter what stage of love he is in, he cannot ignore his own progress. Once the motivation to improve one's own value is lost in a relationship, the relationship is not far from crisis, so , only by constantly improving yourself is the best way to love
