When many boys are chasing girls, their relationship has been stagnant for a long time. They want to be more proactive, but they are afraid of showing the wrong feelings. If they fail, the two may not even be friends. But I don't take the initiative, and I am afraid of missing the destined person. So how should you pursue a girl so that you can quickly close the relationship?
1. Test the other person’s mind
Only when two people are happy can a relationship have a chance to blossom and bear fruit.
Just as my friend is worried, if someone has no interest in you at all, or already has a significant other, then your affection will be wrongly paid.
It’s actually not difficult to test the other person’s intentions. Generally speaking, as long as they are not the King of the Sea and the Queen of the Sea who want to raise fish.
It is impossible for you to know nothing about whether he is in love or married.
Therefore, the problem of unclear emotional state can basically be solved when we first get to know each other.
As for the other person’s feelings, everyone will be possessive of the person they like.
Then when you are alone with the other person, you can say to him or her like this, "Recently, everyone at home has begun to urge marriage. Do you have a suitable person around you? Please introduce me to one."
You have clearly shown that you want to be in love.
The person who likes you will definitely show his preference for you more obviously when interacting with you.
2. Create a comfortable atmosphere for getting along with each other
When adults fall in love, the most important thing is not to be dramatic. A big event that moved the world.
It’s about “comfort”. Once he feels comfortable with you, he will be willing to spend more time with you.
Since he doesn’t feel comfortable being with you, he naturally doesn’t want to waste much time on you.
So before the ambiguity is broken, try not to regard yourself as the other person's partner.
Especially don’t interfere with his friends and life, just like a friend and confidant.
When he encounters difficulties, take the initiative to give him some help and give him some emotional support.
Let him or her have a sense of security: "No matter what you do, I will support you and I will be behind you."
At this point, you may ask, what is a comfortable way to get along?
In fact, everyone has their own definition of comfort.
But there is one principle: moderate control and mutual respect.
Because many times, your control is also a kind of care for her. Moderate control will make her feel that you care about her.of.
3. Increase sunk costs
Create a sense of dependence. When two people break up, the reason why they are reluctant to part is, It's because there are "sunk costs" when interacting.
The greater the sunk cost, the deeper the emotional bond between you.
So when you get along with the person you like, you must not only know how to give, but also how to ask for it appropriately.
For example, if you help him solve a work problem, you can ask him to treat you to a meal.
When he asks you for help, you don’t have to respond to everything. Rejecting a few times will make him have a more profound impact on you.
Sometimes, the relationship between opposite sexes is slowly established in the process of mutual trouble.
Anyone who really likes you and loves you only needs you to make a start and give him or her a hint, and he or she will take the initiative to respond to your feelings.
Because he cherishes the relationship between you more than you, do you understand?
