After just adding a girl on WeChat, many boys are often troubled by how to open a topic and how to avoid awkward conversations. Today, the editor will tell you how to chat with a girl after you have just added her to WeChat to make her feel good.
First, test a girl’s liking for you
When you have just added a girl After WeChat, many boys are always impatient to open up the topic and just ask this and that.
You know, we have just joined the girl’s WeChat account, and the girl is still wary of you. If you start a household registration-style chat, it will not only easily lead to a question-and-answer awkward chat mode, but also It's easy for girls to feel disgusted. After all, in the unfamiliar stage, frequent private chats will only make people feel harassed.
Therefore, the first thing we have to do is to control ourselves, don’t be too proactive, and first test whether the girl has the motivation to chat. For example, you can send her a cute emoticon, or call her cute. Use her responses to determine how motivated she is to talk to you.
Or check out her circle of friends, like and comment on her circle of friends. Like is the simplest way to chat, or you can post to Moments from time to time, and the content happens to be the type she is interested in. If your first impression is not particularly bad, it is not difficult to start a conversation. Make her feel that she is taking the initiative and is willing to chat.
2. Talk about some relaxing topics
After opening the topic, you want to talk to the girl To develop a good impression and get closer to each other, we need to choose some relaxing topics and create a relaxing chat atmosphere.
For example: You can show your personality traits, hobbies and expertise during the chat.
1. Interesting things at work: Create a hard-working and progressive image for girls.
2. Interesting things during the trip: Girls are full of interest in the unknown. Tell girls about the places you have been and what you have seen, and the topic will start naturally.
3. The latest gossip entertainment: If you feel that gossiping with girls is a bit boring, you can chat with girls about the latest popular movies
4. Customs, customs, eating habits: topics about your hometown are fine Create a sense of reliability, stability, and affection for girls.
5. Three views and life status: Talk about the life status you most yearn for, and describe a future for the other person that you will work hard for.
6. Personal interests and hobbies: Understand each other’s interests and talk about some interesting topics that will make girls laugh.
3. Don’t finish chatting all at once, master the rhythm of chatting
You must take the initiative when flirting with girls, but if you are too proactive, you will only lose the initiative and make the girl lose interest in you. Therefore, the rhythm of chatting must be mastered, such as:
1. Prolong the reply time appropriately
Don’t chat with girls all the time. You have your own life, not online all day long. chat. You have to have your own things to do and let her adapt to your rhythm and schedule.
It can be specific to the rhythm of a certain conversation. You don’t have to reply to her statement immediately, just wait for a while and delay your reply. Firstly, it shows that you don’t attach much importance to this chat, and secondly, it gives you time to think about how to reply.
2. Don’t always take the initiative, guide girls to take the initiative
Attracting a woman is not about how much you know about the woman, but whether the woman can take the initiative towards you. All you have to do is show yourself, be attractive, and let girls take the initiative towards you.
It’s not important to understand a woman, but it’s important to make her want to understand you. Don’t tell your story all at once so that women understand everything about you. Telling stories slowly and grasping the rhythm of story advancement is a kind of attraction.
4. Show value and attract girls
If you just talk about some topics that are not related to you, Then it will be difficult for you to be attracted to this girl, and at most it will only become a best friend relationship.
If we want to attract her, we need to learn to show our own value, just like a peacock, opening its tail appropriately to show its reproductive value.
Of course, there are also skills to showing value. For example, if you say: "I am rich, please be my girlfriend" or "My family is very rich and has several houses and cars." It will make the other party feel that you are a nouveau riche, and it will be difficult for girls to accept you. At this time, you need to tell her indirectly.
Use the hook to lead her to ask you questions. For example, if you want to show your family's wealth, you can say: "My mother is so annoying." If she asks you what's wrong, you can say: "I live on the 3rd floor, and my mother is on the 2nd floor. She insists on me going to the first floor." Get her a Coke. I don’t like it, and she scolds me.” In this way, your value can be demonstrated naturally.
Another way is to show it through your behavioral patterns. For example, you suddenly stopped replying to her while chatting. Reply to her every 2 hours: "I was swimming/meeting/cooking just now." After showing your value, you still need to get to know the other person.
