Many boys go through "difficult mode" when chasing girls.
Pursuing a relationship requires them to pay extremely high costs and energy, so many boys find it difficult to pursue girls. So why do some boys go into "difficult mode" when chasing girls?
I have a buddy who is chasing girls. When he said, "I had a toothache all night yesterday and I felt like I was going to die," he replied with a deadpan expression, "Oh, I'm still talking now, so I'm not dead." As a result, the girl said that he was very humorous. .
In fact, if you think about it carefully, such stories seem to be very common. We all have double standards: for the person we like, the other person’s unintentional behavior will make you feel that love has come; but for us, there is no such thing as love. For those who feel it, no matter how positive the other party is, our response is general - your baby can crawl, you can hold her and kiss her for a long time and think she is a little genius; the neighbor's child can make soy sauce. No, you don’t think it matters.
Girls will involuntarily switch to the "love brain mode" for some boys who are handsome, have good conditions, and have high emotional value. The so-called love brain mode is: everything this person says is right. , everything this person does makes sense, and his unintentional actions are all so cool, such as those Weibo messages posted by idols.
But for most of us, we are unlikely to be the kind of person who can turn on their "love brain mode" Men, when girls face most ordinary boys, they will switch to another "inspection mode": Do you have a car? Do you have a house? How much is your deposit? How tall is your height? Is it good for me?
< p> This is why some boys think it’s so hard to chase girls. In the past, this phenomenon was not so obvious, but with the development of transportation and the popularity of social software in recent years, those high-value boys have begun to sink and compete with ordinary boys for resources of the opposite sex.Now your mate selection range can be extended to surrounding provinces and cities. When you still like Xiaohua, you will find that: Da Liu and Xiao Zhang are still there, but the group headed by Shi Cong is more valuable. The boys also had a great time chatting with Xiaohua on social software. Xiaohua would drool at brother Zhixiang’s Weibo every day.
For Zhixiang, he is handsome and sunny. Some girls like him. He also knows that his conditions should find an Internet celebrity beauty as his girlfriend, but he doesn’t mind. Find a few other girls to play multi-person sports with; for Si Cong, he is rich and will definitely marry a well-known woman as his wife in the future, but he doesn't mind having sex with a good-looking female white-collar worker like Xiaohua. A romantic affair.
Zhixiang and Sicong are smart people. They know that if they directly say "I just want to sleep with you", although it is not impossible to succeed, it will greatly reduce the success rate after all—— After all, girls don't want to be seen as "casual" and have the most basic reserve. So Shi Cong and Zhi Xiang came up with their own explanation:
Don’t think that you and I are just playing around. I really like you and I want to be with you seriously. You and others Girls are all different, I only like you.
Although you know that this sentence is false, and Shi Cong and Zhi Xiang know that this sentence is a lie, many girls will take it seriously!
After all, Zhi Xiang and Zhi Xiang Shi Cong is really good to him, even if those small gifts are a drop in the bucket to them, and those sweet words are just recitation of model essays to them; after all, when Zhixiang and Shi Cong finally broke up with him, they said they had "incompatible personalities" Rather than "Look at your virtue, how can I possibly marry you"... How can a girl who mistakenly thinks that Shi Cong and Zhi Xiang love her still likes you?
Among many girls’ views on mate selection, she has a very high position for herself: I was the woman who was pursued by Shi Cong and Zhi Xiang back then!
A girl who thinks like this will face you. When the time comes, it will never be possible to switch to the "love brain mode". So I understand why boys say they find it difficult to chase girls.
