High emotional intelligence can not only make you emotionally comfortable, but also reduce the occurrence of conflicts in love and extend the shelf life of love. What does a person with truly high emotional intelligence show in a relationship?
1. Can control oneself Emotions
A person with high emotional intelligence can control his emotions very well in a relationship. For example, when he is in a bad mood, he will not vent his negative emotions to the other person or say unpleasant things. Instead, you will digest and restrain yourself; on the other hand, when there is conflict and friction between the two parties, for example, when faced with a girl's "action", for example, because you did not reply in time during the chat, the girl is unhappy and does not want to talk to you:
Male: "I was really delayed by something yesterday and didn't reply to you in time. I'm really sorry."
Female: "It's okay. Are you busy? Work is the most important thing."
At this time, boys with low emotional intelligence often feel that the other person is being arrogant or unreasonable. If they can't control their emotions well, this small flame will be added fuel and jealousy and develop into a prairie fire, but boys with high emotional intelligence will often be patient. Keep your temper and control your emotions:
Male: "Work is very important, and chatting with you is also very important. If something unexpected happens next time, I won't chat with you."
Female: "..."
Male: "Let me video chat with you directly, so that I can work and see you at the same time. Remember to pick up when the time comes. ”
2. Will consider the other person’s feelings
In addition to being good at controlling their own emotions, boys with high emotional intelligence are In terms of love, I can also know the heart of a woman. Understand each other's needs empathetically and take care of each other's emotional sensitivities.
For example, in your daily communication, you unknowingly talk about a topic that she is very interested in but you dare not catch a cold. Boys with low emotional intelligence will directly talk to each other when they are interested because they feel boring. Interrupting ends the topic without caring about the other person's feelings; but a boy with high emotional intelligence will not interrupt directly even if he is not interested. He knows that this will make the other person feel embarrassed, so he will often express it from another angle:
"Although I don't know much about what you are talking about, the look on your face when you talk about it is really cute. It's like a little sun, constantly radiating heat and enthusiasm."
It’s actually not difficult to consider the other person’s feelings and understand the other person’s needs. Sometimes it’s like a detective solving a case:
We can find out the key words in her words while communicating with the other person. Extract the emotions hidden behind it and give feedback to make her feel that you can empathize with her; at the same time, you can listen more and pay attention to why the other party feels this way. Finally, you will naturally understand the truth of the case, that is, the other partydemand.
3. Confident but not conceited
Boys with high emotional intelligence are usually very confident, but this kind of confidence , not to show off, not to show off, but a measured and modest self-affirmation and display.
For example, if you talk about sensitive topics such as past relationship experiences during a date, the other party may not be able to help but curiously ask how many girls have chased you. Boys with low emotional intelligence may do so out of a show-off mentality. Talking eloquently about how good and attractive you are to girls, such overconfidence will often be despised by girls; while boys with high emotional intelligence will often say:
Male: "It doesn't matter how many girls have chased me. Ah."
Female: "You mean many girls have chased you."
Male: "Are you so concerned about girls who have chased me? You are not jealous. Are you there?"
Appropriate joking, cleverly deflecting questions, and indirectly affirming your charm in attracting girls. You are confident but not conceited, which is just right.
