"You are a good person" is a commonly used polite rejection by girls. The subtext is: You are good at everything, but I just don't love you. In fact, such girls are quite good, because they will not treat you as a spare tire and flirt with you, but will tell you straightforwardly when they are sure that they will not accept you just because you are good to them.
It is too common for good people to get stuck in the world of emotions. Many people think that a boy is given a good guy card because he is not good enough or strong enough. In fact, there are too many people who are single not because you are not good enough, but because you are not suitable for falling in love, let alone getting married.
Girls often don’t hate you, but you can’t give her the love experience she needs, so although she is very willing to associate with you, she will refuse at the slightest sign.
So what kind of boys are likely to be given the good guy card?
The first category: Blindly agreeing with girls
The girl said: "Chicken is more delicious than duck meat." The boy said: "That's right." Even if he doesn't like chicken.
A girl quarrels with others: "That bitch is really disgusting." Boy: "Yes, I have never seen such a disgusting woman in the world." Even if in fact she initiated the conflict herself .
There are quite a few boys who have this habit when chasing girls. They always agree with the girl unconditionally. Anyway, everything the girl says is right and everything she does is reasonable.
When these boys agree with girls,
This is what they think: Since I want to pursue her, I must not go against her, and I must let her know that no matter what she does, I am always on her side in everything. If I support her unconditionally, she will definitely be moved by me slowly.
If you, the brothers here, have done something like this and have such a mentality, then I can tell you with certainty: Just as the truth of most things in this world is very different from what we imagine, in fact A girl never needs you to agree with her blindly!
No matter what a girl does, you will agree with her unconditionally, even if there are some things that she is obviously wrong about, and there are some things that you are unwilling to do, you just want to please her. , all say that she is right, forcing yourself to do things you don’t want to do, what does this mean? It means that you are very weak and have no opinions and principles.
May I ask, what does a weak man with no opinion have to be attracted to her?
With you like this, she can even do whatever she wants, including trampling on your dignity and treating you as a backup. fetal. So if you just go along with it, the end result is often that after you reveal your intentions in this regard, the girl will very kindly give you a ""Good Guy Card" as a reward.
In the same way, those who blindly make unilateral contributions to girls both materially and emotionally are the same, and they build themselves into a person who can be attacked at a moment's notice. Those who are about to go, in the eyes of girls, they all have one thing in common, that is, they can control it at will.
Category 2: Almost no social circle
A man has a strong social circle, which is a very high value bonus in the eyes of girls!
As the saying goes, One more friend opens up a new path, and your friends with a wide social circle will be very helpful to expand your career and horizons. In other words, if you have a strong social circle, your future will be bright. , the future is bright, and if a girl chooses you, her investment will not be in vain.
If unfortunately you have no connections, no friends, and almost no social activities, then it may be possible. It’s going to be a tragedy.
Some brothers may say: I have no friends and no circle. Without those messy social activities, wouldn’t I be able to spend more time and energy on her, accompany her and care for her? She, isn't this what many girls want very much?
To be honest, girls are more concerned about what kind of future this man has and what kind of future he can give them, even in social activities. You who have almost none of them obviously lack these things.
For a girl with ideals, it is impossible to find someone who can only focus on her if she only cares about the pleasure in front of her. A man is obviously a very uneconomical one-time deal. After a few years, the man's career has not improved, and the economic situation is still at the same level. The two of them can only say "I love you" dryly in the rental house. I'm afraid not many women are willing to go there.
So you can really be a "good" man who puts down your bricks and hugs her wholeheartedly and loves her... Then the girl is very moved and hugs her. Tears took out a "good guy card" and awarded it to you
The third category: no comparison, no harm<. /strong>
There is another reason, which may be very simple and crude to say -
You were defeated by a "bad man"
Don't. The hope of a successful relationship rests on the fact that the girl you like has only one suitor. When you like a girl, there are often other boys who also like her.
When you like a girl, you are the only one pursuing her. A girl develops steadily and steadily, and when you get along with her at the same pace every day, there may be a "bad" man competing with you.
That "bad" boy is always unexpected and does not follow common sense. He is good at using various humorous words to soothe the girl's emotions. Although he always bullies her, he can make her laugh again every time.
This so-called "bad man" has brought many changes to the girl's simple and boring life, causing her emotions to rise and fall, and her mind is filled with what he said and did. Let me ask, Can a girl not be obsessed with him?
And although you have never intentionally been against her, you have not brought her any interesting experiences.
As the saying goes, there is no harm without comparison. To have such a love rival who can make girls cry, laugh, and be obsessed with each other as an opponent is really a fair loss. In the end, the "bad" person successfully embraced the beauty, and as a good old man, you can only hold this card and cry alone.
Category 4: You are a truly good person
What is A truly good person?
A girl is not stupid. After she likes you, she will want to have more romantic experiences with you, and may even want to have intimate contact with you. For example, getting closer to you, holding your hand and walking together, and there are many more that I won’t go into details.
It is a pity that some brothers never dare to act rashly in front of girls. Even if the girl has given obvious hints, he is afraid that if he misunderstands, he will destroy the relationship that was finally established, so Always give three cents to girls.
He neither dares to have physical contact with girls, nor dares to say words that can directly express his emotions to her. He behaves like a complete gentleman.
Your "demeanor" makes girls realize that you are really a good person, so good that you have no desire. It is neither romantic nor sweet to fall in love with such a man who has no basic interest.
The above four categories are the boys who are most likely to be given good guy cards by girls. I hope you are not one of them.
