Today with the development of the Internet, you can send a WeChat message to the other party and receive it immediately. If you want to see the other party, just make a video call. You can maintain the relationship even if you are in two places. That is why so many people choose long-distance relationships. . So is it possible to have a long-distance relationship? The following is an inventory of the pros and cons of long-distance relationships. After understanding them, you can decide whether to choose long-distance relationships.
1. What are the disadvantages of long-distance relationships
1. Too far apart and the feeling of distance is too strong
Long-distance boyfriends and girlfriends can only be limited to mobile phones. Text, voice and video are used to interact, but after all, the online world is not as good as real companionship. What happened in life? The other party can only provide spiritual comfort and knowledge, and you have to solve everything by yourself. When you are sick, there is no one to accompany you to the hospital or buy medicine for you. The food you eat is takeaway, otherwise it is... The patient's thirst cannot be quenched by far water. Occasionally, when you are alone, you will have a severe feeling of loneliness, and it is easy to have quarrels because you have not seen each other for a long time and do not understand each other. At this time, if a third party intervenes and greets him, it will be very lethal. The big one, no matter whether it can be explained clearly or not, if the other party knows about it, they will never be able to go back.
The most common problem faced by long-distance relationships is that it is difficult to meet each other. If you have a quarrel, you cannot give him a hug immediately. If you miss him, you cannot let him see you immediately.
2. Can’t be together often, lack of security
When you are busy with something and don’t reply When receiving information, the other party will most likely question why. It took a long time to reply to my message. What are you doing? Are you so busy? If you don’t reply to the messages, it means there is someone outside. Do you not love me anymore? Similar problems and the spreading distrust in the heart have led to a lot of quarrels and complaints, and after experiencing it once, reconciliation can easily happen again, and the cycle continues, and the two people even choose to separate due to exhaustion.
3. The cost of meeting is too high
The two parties in a long-distance relationship will always meet, but due to the distance of the long-distance relationship, the meeting between the two parties is not just as simple as the money for the round trip ticket, but also the money for the trip. Accommodation and food are required, and there is more romantic time. The short time is three or four hours, and the long time may be half a day. At this time, not only are you mentally exhausted, but your wallet is also a lot thinner, which leads to this meeting. From now on, half of the passion has been wiped out, and the happiness in getting along with each other is relatively low. Or maybe it's just because we haven't seen each other for so long that we have less common language. For a while, we have nothing to say. Gradually, we feel like we are strangers, farther and farther away, and we are dispensable.
2. What are the benefits of long-distance relationships?
Then is there really no merit to long-distance relationships? Got married? No, although the risks of long-distance relationships are great, the benefits are also huge.
1. Long-distance relationships cherish each other more
Long-distance relationships make both parties cherish the short time together. When you meet, you will be in a state comparable to the period of passionate love. In this state, the relationship between the two parties will heat up. In ancient times, friends have said that a small goodbye is better than a new love. This means that the joy of this moment will really heal everything. sad and sad.
2. Extending the period of love
Long-distance relationships are more likely to prolong each other’s love. Couples who are tired of being together every day will actually get tired of it after a short time and enter the cold period. After being tired, there will often be a long cooling-off period. If you get over it, you will get over it. If you don't get over it, you will be separated. Couples who are in a long-distance relationship are different. Since the two parties in a long-distance relationship cannot get along day and night, they will suppress the longing for each other in their hearts. However, when they meet, the time is too short, so they cannot fully vent and release, and then they will enter a long period of time. The love period can even last as long as two to three years.
3. Long-distance love is a test for each other
Long-distance love is a test for both parties. A brief separation may give you a clearer understanding of whether the other person loves you. This kind of love is the appreciation of the soul, rather than a temporary whim or temporary companionship. In the case of long-distance love, you can better distinguish this. From whether each other can stand it. The temptation of the outside world, or whether they will always love you, can roughly tell whether you two can really become soul mates, so those lovers who have survived long-distance relationships, more than 780% They will all choose to get married with each other, so after passing the test of long-distance love, you are more real than any of the five loves.
After reading the good and bad aspects of long-distance relationships, do you think you will continue to choose long-distance relationships?
