Pursuing a girl does not mean you will succeed if you pursue her. You will definitely be rejected once or twice. This is normal. But if you are always rejected by girls, you need to find the reason within yourself.
So what are the common reasons for being rejected by girls?
1. Boring
It’s very simple. Chatting is boring. We always talk like this, are you here, what are you doing, and have you eaten? It wouldn't be interesting to meet and go on a date. Just sit there and behave like a good baby. You won't joke or tease her.
2. Poor first impression
A person’s first impression is just like the packaging of the product. What does a girl look like when she sees you for the first time? After forming a fixed impression, she will What impression does it make of you. Unless you are an old brand that has been famous for many years, if you dress in a tacky and sloppy way when you meet a girl for the first time, which makes the girl think you are low and low, don't blame her for looking down on you.
3. The sense of need is exposed too early
When a girl doesn’t have any feelings for you when you first meet her, if you show that you want to date her, then the girl will also be attracted to you. If she puts up a firewall against you from the beginning and views all of your actions through colored glasses like "purposeful" and be more alert, then she will treat your good behavior as harassment.
It means that after this, girls will subconsciously feel a sense of irritation when they see you, and they are unlikely to like you, so rejection is a certainty.
4. Insufficient sense of connection
This sense of connection does not mean whether you have called a girl or not. Chatting on WeChat and QQ means that your life and hers lack intersection. Although you may often chat with her, there is no involvement in each other's lives, nothing worth remembering or worrying about, and your friends basically don't know that you know such a boy/girl. So even if you are fine today and cut off contact with you tomorrow, there will be no burden on her. Anyway, if you suddenly disappear from each other's sight, her friend will not care, and your friend will have no feeling at all, as if you have never known such a person before. The solution is to get along with her more in life and introduce each other's friends. Frequently eat and play together, attend gatherings of each other's friend circles, and let your lives penetrate each other and involve each other. For example, you have some anime figures stored with her, and she has some collection of books that you can borrow. Only in this way, if you have more interactions with her and have an impact on the social relationship between the two parties, will the girl seriously consider whether she should reject your feelings instead of just waving her hand and saying goodbye.
If you are always rejected by girls, it is mostly due to the above reasons. Of course, what exactly is it?As a person involved, you must know better than the editor and I, so I won’t comment too much here.
The question now is, what should you do to get yourself back on your feet after being rejected?
1 , Give your emotions an outlet
The most terrible thing is that after being rejected by a girl, you will sink into a state of self-pity. Once you become like this, you will sink for a long time. Let alone love, you may not even be able to live. Lose together with your career. You may travel to some beautiful places or other cities, or you may choose to indulge in your own hobbies for a period of time, or you may get drunk and have a carnival with your brothers. In short, a healthy outlet is necessary. Don't keep thinking about the person who rejected you.
2. Calm down and reflect on your shortcomings
Learn from the pain, reflect on your own shortcomings, and then change them. This is a necessary quality for a person to make progress. Only in this way can we avoid being poked at the same scar in the future. Even if you are really rejected by girls because you are poor, after reflection, you should understand that the next thing you should do is to work hard, and you should not continue to waste your youth in ignorance.
3. Add new goals to get more possibilities
Don’t hang yourself from a tree, This is not only for our own good, but also for the good of the girl you like. Being continuously rejected by a girl many times means that you are really not her type. So your unwillingness to give up may seem like a very manly quality to you, but in fact, to her, it means that she is constantly being rejected. Harassment. So changing the target and releasing the pressure on her is also for the good of the girl you like. The only difficulty in this matter is that loyalty has always been a virtue we admire. Some brothers think that they obviously like this girl, but because they encounter "a little obstacle", they start to find a "spare tire" for themselves. My conscience couldn't bear it, and secondly, I was thinking of a way out, and I was too embarrassed to ask for her love. So some people choose to hang themselves from a tree because of so-called "morality" and "loyalty". The so-called loyalty is based on the mutual commitment of both parties. If you are rejected by a girl more than twice, it means that she is eager for you to find other girls and stop harassing her. Then the loyalty you insist on is a joke.
So, if a girl rejects you more than twice, then please let go and find a girl who is more suitable for you.
1. Give yourself a chance to find a girl who really likes you.
2. Only when your mentality is liberated can you hope to win her back.
The art of war emphasizes "retreating to advance" and "defending to attack". After your mentality is liberated, you will no longer make the wrong moves that bother her., no longer brings a sense of oppression to the pressure, and at the same time, you have more energy to change yourself. From now on, you will no longer put pressure on her, and at the same time, you will become more perfect. Perhaps, this is the beginning of letting her truly know you, truly consider your charm, and truly become interested in you.
