Because I have been doing emotional counseling for a while, this time has made me deeply realize how important a correct view of love is for couples! So today I will share with you what a correct view of love is. Hurry up Come with me and reflect on yourself.
1. Don’t pursue 100-point love
Love is not the whole of life, you are a part of the other person , not all. No matter boy or girl, never pursue 100 points of love. Love should be 60 points, and the remaining 40 points can be left for family, friends, hobbies, career, etc.
2. Love is not about changing, but about accepting and tolerating the other person
No one is absolutely perfect. The essence of love is to accept the true strengths of the other person and to be able to accept them. Only in this way can we survive for a long time. But not all shortcomings must be accepted, and some bad habits must be corrected.
3. Don’t always like to have random thoughts
Please control your random thoughts, and do not let some external voices shake your judgment. When you look at people, you can't just look at them on the surface, but you have to feel them with your heart. At the same time, don't let yourself be too idle. When you are idle, you will easily have random thoughts that will cause trouble for you. Don't put too much emphasis on the other person. Over time, you will live without yourself, which will lead to many conflicts.
4. Strive to realize self-increase and increase your bargaining chips
In this love relationship, you must also constantly learn to improve yourself, realize self-added value, increase your own chips, and make yourself better. How can you worry about gains and losses when you get better? You still have to give yourself a sense of security.
5. Learn to shift your attention and don’t always focus on the other person
As the saying goes, distance creates beauty. If you always stare at her to see things, you will see more. Too many of her imperfections make you feel tired, and so does she. Please concentrate on doing your own thing. Don't think about other things while eating and doing things. When eating, eat well. Don't always wonder why she hasn't contacted you yet. When playing, just have fun. When you get used to focusing on your own things, you will naturally think less and won't feel like time passes too slowly.
6. Try to elevate the situation and look at the problem from a higher dimension
Don’t just limit yourself At present, the future requires two people to work together and share the joys and sorrows, rather than being satisfied with the happiness of the present.
7. If you have any doubts, raise them promptly and don’t think about them.
Don’t guess what the other person is thinking. Maybe the other person doesn’t know what’s going on at the time, but you should always be immersed in it. In the pain of not knowing. Don't always doubt whether she loves you or not. The hint in your heart is very scary. If you always question whether she loves you in person because of some things, it willIn the end, she really didn't know whether she loved him or not. So give each other more positive psychological hints.
8. Cultivation of yourself
In fact, no matter whether the relationship is good or bad, you must first cultivate yourself thoroughly. Otherwise, no matter how good the other person is, you will grasp the different points. Will fall into self-doubt and distress. When you become stronger, no matter whether the relationship is perfect or not, and whether the other person really loves you or not, and you have the strong ability to reconcile with yourself, you will no longer be so afraid. Learn to dare to love and hate, and learn to control your emotions. You can love her very much, but please pay attention to the method!
9. The AA system is implemented for dating
The AA system does not mean care about everything. Not any party’s spending is justified, and everyone must learn to pay appropriately. Doing so can not only resolve unnecessary conflicts, but also bring balance to the love relationship. Moreover, you can establish a joint dating fund. Both of you save the same amount every month, and the dating expenses can be settled with this money~!
The above is what the editor brings to you today. A correct view of love! How do you feel after reading it? Welcome to chat in private to communicate.
