Ambiguity makes people linger, but it also makes people feel wronged. I thought we were just one step away from being together, but suddenly I found that the girl became cold. What is the reason for this situation?
1. Entering the girl’s friendship zone
Before the announcement, both men and women interacted with many people. It is perfectly normal for individuals to maintain an ambiguous relationship.
Therefore, a girl who has been ambiguous for a long time will suddenly become cold. It is likely that you have fallen into her last choice. In this ambiguous relationship, you only remain ambiguous with the girl, but you cannot give her a sense of security, dependence and sexual impulse. Then once there are other competitors who can do the above three points.
Then this girl will naturally make the best choice among the ambiguous objects. When she establishes a prospective boyfriend among them, she will automatically keep a distance from other ambiguous objects, thus breaking other ambiguous objects into friendship. District, this woman's most rational and harmonious decision.
The most correct posture during the ambiguous period is: as a friend, play the role of the other party's prospective boyfriend.
Once the so-called ambiguous friendship lasts for too long, girls will pay attention to the opposite sex with stronger signals of goodwill because of boys' inactivity.
Because maintaining ambiguity is a very dangerous thing. You don’t know whether you will become a spare tire, so the best way to avoid harm is to maintain a short-term ambiguity and establish a good impression as early as possible. , and a partner who is loyal to you.
The same is true for girls.
2. Overexposure of needs
Many boys are often impulsive when faced with ambiguous relationships. , Can't keep calm. After only being ambiguous for a few days, they began to express their feelings on a daily basis, creating a relationship atmosphere where "she has to be the one".
Of course, a girl will be very happy when she hears someone confessing to her, but when she calms down, she will feel great pressure. The reason is that she only has a 4-point affection for you, and she cannot bear your 8-point love.
Therefore, during the period of ambiguity, do not express your love. Otherwise, if the other person does not like you that much, the best way to end this high-pressure love is to break off the relationship.
What you need to do is to show yourself slowly and let this girl gradually rely on your existence. Let the girl's love for you rise to 8 points, so that the girl will not feel pressure when facing your confession and can easily accept it naturally.
Don't worry about "because you don't confess, the girl won't know that you like her",
You have to trust a girl's intuition. In fact, from the first message you send "Are you there?" From the beginning, this girl already knew "you like her".
3. Interfering too much in girls’ lives
Girls definitely don’t like a boy who is petty and overly ambitious, so “she You can do whatever you like, and you can go with whoever she likes to play with." You must not complain about this girl at this time.
If you really can’t stand it, just shamelessly force the girl to take you with her. If she insists on not taking you to play, then you must also know how to put away your dignity in time and correct your position. After all, only boys who are relaxed and relaxed can win more favor from girls.
At the same time, during the ambiguous period, don’t put all the focus of your life on the girl. Show your life actively. When this girl realizes that "your life is so interesting," she will naturally walk into your life with curiosity.
Don’t force yourself into a girl’s world. She can’t tolerate you in her heart and will naturally shut you out. What you have to do is to make your own garden and wait for girls to take the initiative to visit your world.
4. Causes cognitive bias
Why do girls suddenly become cold?
< p>Have you ever thought about this question: When you chat with yourself on weekdays, in the minds of girls, you have the image of a sunny, handsome and warm man. But look through your circle of friends. Have you recently posted a selfie of yourself with unkempt hair and slippers and pants?If the answer is yes, then the reason is most likely due to this kind of photo.
After all, whether it is a man or a woman, 99% of love begins because of lust. Similarly, the end of ambiguity is likely to end from "cognitive bias".
In the imagination of girls, you on the other side of the screen may be a sunny-looking, clean and tidy boy, but when you post a bohemian selfie in your circle of friends, it is difficult for girls to Associate this image with the person you say goodnight to every day.
Good feelings are generated in an instant, and good feelings also disappear in an instant.
Therefore, during the ambiguous period, you should be cautious in posting on Moments, and try to show your sunny, handsome and high-value side as much as possible. Those negative images and complaints will only become the only reason to end the girl's favor.
