If you have followed emotional bloggers, you will definitely be familiar with the term "emotional value". So do you know what providing emotional value is? Then how to correctly mention emotional value? Let’s take a look with the editor today.
What is emotional value?
Example: For example, if you are wronged by your boss and complain to a friend, , he said, "Your boss is really not a human being! I gave you such a small amount of money to do so much work." You said, "Yes! It's so annoying." Then you felt much better. This shows that during this interaction, he His emotional value is higher than yours, and you successfully obtained emotional value from him.
And if you complain to him and he says, "It's useless for you to say this, you have done your job well, and your boss has nothing to say.", you will say, "It's mine." Is there a problem?" Then I felt even more confused and panicked. This means that his emotional value is lower than yours. You tried to obtain emotional value from him but failed.
People with high emotional value are more able to make others emotionally dependent and trustful, because such people can make others feel [comfortable].
How can we correctly provide emotional value?
1. Reduce negative feedback
There are many people who have the ability to "add to the problem with just one sentence". Let's first eliminate these mistakes. Suppress the habit of expressing yourself, don’t be the creator of negative emotions, and then consider how to provide emotional value.
Accusations, suppression, negative predictions, malicious speculations, eccentricities...
If you have the above-mentioned expression habits, I suggest you correct them as soon as possible. Let these habits affect your feelings.
2. Increase positive feedback
After talking about counterexamples and positive examples, how can feedback provide emotions to the other party? What about value?
Active attention, praising details, positive vocabulary expression, and providing constructive opinions instead of negative opinions.
These feedback methods that focus on positive content can guide others to shift their attention to positive things, and their cognition affects their emotions. This in itself is providing psychological counseling to others.
3. Give a sense of identity
Most people in modern times lack a sense of existence and identity. In plain words, they lack a stage to show themselves and a lack of understanding of the highlight moments of life. focus.
Ask for more details and give positive feedback based on your understanding of the content and the level of the relationship between the two parties.
Identity is a scarce resource. If you have the ability to create a stage, many people will exchange value with you in order to perform on stage.
4. Allowing mentality
The allowing mentality can also be said to be: "allowing"Permit" ability. What should you allow? Allow people and things in the outside world to not develop according to your expectations, such as allowing your parents to interfere with your feelings.
The reason why you need to allow these things is because whether you allow them or not Allow it, they have all happened, and your negative emotions are meaningless.
You can discuss your views on relationships with your parents, but in these things, what is needed is reason rather than emotion. The stronger the emotion. The more it is, the easier it is to do bad things, so you need to allow it.
The weaker your ability to allow, the smaller your inner world will be. If someone else's random move can cause an uproar in your small world, then you will naturally only be able to do it. You can always be tired of asking for emotional value from the outside world, and it is impossible to feedback emotional value to others.
So do you now know how to correctly mention emotional value? If you haven't learned it yet, message me privately and give me a step-by-step guide. Teach you.
