Question: Last month, my mother’s friend introduced me to a girl on a blind date. After the meal, I felt good overall. I think this girl is pretty good, but the girl also said that her family asked her to come. In the end, whether it can develop or not depends on how the two people feel. Of course I think it’s okay and I happily agree. But after returning home, the girl told the introducer that she felt that I was a bit introverted and not proactive enough, and then my parents criticized me in various ways. Based on the principle of boys taking the initiative, I took the initiative to ask her out several times, but she was rejected every time. I think it's time to do the job, and I'm relieved. But a few days later I received a call from my mother saying that I was not proactive enough, and I really collapsed. I want to ask:
What should I do if a girl on a blind date says I don’t take the initiative?
Answer: In fact, when a man and a woman are on a blind date, as long as they see each other, it doesn’t necessarily have to be the one who takes the initiative, and it’s not about talking. Falling in love and blind dates are all about picking each other up. There is no such thing as petty tricks, who can win over whom, etc. If you like someone, see more and get to know them better. If you don't like someone, say it clearly and say goodbye before choosing the next person.
Just like looking for a job, if you submit 800 resumes, you won’t be notified of all interviews; if you interview with 8 companies, they may not all want you, and besides, there are still things you don’t like; Even if you join the job, you still have to have a probation period of three months. After the probation period, you will not quit your job after you become a full-time employee.
Isn’t this all something that can’t be said? You have to take it one step at a time and follow your feelings.
Moreover, the girl on the blind date said that you didn’t take the initiative, and your parents thought that you didn’t take the initiative. In fact, you made a mistake. You looked too high on the other person, and put yourself in a relatively low position, for fear of getting past this point. There is no such store in the village anymore. She said it was requested by her family, which proved that she might be a little resistant to blind dates. But I'm afraid there are not many people who cry and shout to go on a blind date. Most of them are requested by their families, so I think her behavior is unnecessary.
You asked her to have supper, and she replied, why don’t you go find your friend. You can just reply: I just want to ask you out. It's simple, crude and direct, and I think that's good. Don't talk in circles. If you sincerely make an appointment, it's her problem if she doesn't go. But we have to show a clear attitude.
In fact, you feel good after having a meal with her, that’s great. As far as I know, many blind dates are not very happy when they first meet, let alone fall in love with each other. You're doing pretty well. She has repeatedly asked you to take the initiative through your parents, which is a hint to you that she also approves of you. She only needs you to work harder to agree.
When a girl on a blind date says you don't take the initiative, you don't have to feel pressure, let alone have any resistance. What's the point of being upset? If you have to make an appointment, make an appointment. Even if you ask your buddies to go out to play ball or have a meal, someone has to take the initiative, and you have to allow others to come if they are not free or in the mood. My uncle pushed you away.Bar. You just need to treat people with a normal attitude. Don't be so shameless and have a thin heart, and always apply the word "dog licking" to yourself. What's wrong with that?
Make more appointments, meet more, and get to know each other more. Pushing and walking is not something that can be determined just a few times. But at least it can be seen that you are taking action, and you can only say whether it is successful or not.
