Why is the conversation always unsuccessful? Is it really because girls don’t like being approached by boys and ask for WeChat?
Perhaps for some girls, they are indeed disgusted by boys’ approach, but for older girls For some girls, they are relatively receptive to being approached. Why do I say this? Because I also asked some girls about their views on striking up conversations, and I summarized the following three points: 1. Good-looking girls will have many boys trying to strike up conversations with them, so this This thing has become a habit for them
2. Not only will girls not be disgusted by being approached by a boy who likes them, but they will also be very happy, thinking that this is proof of their charm
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When a group of girls act together, the girl who is struck up will become the object of envy and jealousy among other girls. Even though these girls may not need to meet new boys, they will feel that they have been robbed of the limelight by that girl< /p>
Therefore, the key problem why the strike-up is always unsuccessful is not that the girls are disgusted with the conversation, but that you did some behavior that disgusted them when you first started to strike up a conversation. To put it more harshly: It was not you who did this There is nothing wrong with the thing itself, but your appearance itself is a mistake.
What behaviors in striking up a conversation will make your striking up a conversation always unsuccessful?
1 . Special failure in location selection
It is either a dimly lit area, the entrance and exit of a shopping mall, or the entrance and exit of a subway:
Dimly lit places can make people instinctively I feel nervous and unsafe, and the entrances and exits of shopping malls and subways are generally places where people walk in a hurry and don't stop. If you start a conversation in this place, either people don't have time to talk to you, or they think you are not a good person from the beginning.
2. The way he appeared was too scary
I really can’t complain about a buddy: He is the kind of person who obviously wants to get to know someone, but has evil intentions but no courage. , he can follow a girl with a leering look for a long time, and then slap her from behind - thank God the girl didn't have anti-wolf spray, otherwise he would have to lie on the ground and roll around.
Try not to greet a girl from the back or the straight front:
The back will naturally make people defensive, and the behavior of blocking the road directly from the front is also very serious. Impolite and offensive.
3. The process of striking up a conversation is too tedious
As I said, beautiful girls are actually You are used to being approached by boys, and you are definitely not the first boy to want her WeChat: you stopped her while she was shopping, you are not a beauty salon, nor do you sell fitness cards, youWhat else can it be used for?
I rarely say anything, and I usually state my intentions directly. This direct and straightforward approach makes it less likely to be rejected: because I will give it to you if it pleases you, and it depends on you. Just say no if you don't like it, that's easy.
But if you hang around there for a long time, dragging others into awkward chats for a long time and think you are setting the stage, then it is really inappropriate:
Especially for me now I can’t understand why some people would use “Your dress is so pretty today” as a preface—men, if you stop a little girl on the street and say her dress is pretty, I think it’s quite scary, really.
4. Failure to let the other party lower their guard in time
A person rushed towards you on the street and stopped you. Then I still want your contact information directly. In fact, normal people will feel unsafe, especially now there are some vulgar anchors who will maliciously use this as a selling point to hype up. I think normal people will be repelled. Psychological.
Therefore, it is particularly important to let others put down their guard at the beginning. I usually say: "Don't worry, I have no malicious intentions. I am not a Wechat businessman, and I am not an anchor. I really It’s people who work nearby and want to get to know you.”
At this time, some people may still feel uneasy and may ask questions such as “Are you a bad person” or “Are you a XXA”. , in fact, these questions are a lot of redundant, and when you ask these words, it means that the other party has already begun to waver. At this time, it is easier to make the other party relax if you use humor: Look at what you said, whether I am or not, the answer is Is it negative, right?
If the other party smiles at this time, it means that you are fine. At this time, give the other party a reassurance: I really have no other intentions. If my communication with you makes If you feel uncomfortable, you can delete mine at any time.
You should consider all situations that may make that person uncomfortable, and then take the initiative to eliminate them. Only then can the person feel at ease and hand over their contact information to you.
5. Let others hesitate for too long
I discovered one thing: no matter In any decision, as long as you let a person hesitate for too long, the person will definitely choose a conservative option in the end.
When it comes to meeting new people, the conservative option is to "reject you."
In fact, let’s think about it: if we are walking on the road, and a person of the opposite sex with a good appearance says that we are very attractive and wants to get to know each other, how will we feel? First, we will be happy, and secondly, Wariness, and then hesitation.
So once you are off guard, when others hesitate, don’t give them too longTime, directly say "My friend is still waiting for me there, why don't you scan me" - you have to guide this person, not let her struggle for a long time. When the atmosphere cools down and she hesitates, stop adding.
Therefore, there is actually no problem in asking for WeChat to strike up a conversation. The failure to strike up a conversation is not because girls are disgusted with striking up conversations. The problem is the way you strike up a conversation and your subsequent performance.
Therefore, when chatting up girls, please pay attention to your words, deeds and the way you appear. Don't make a normal thing weird. Only in this way can others accept you better and more easily.