Why did I have a good chat with a girl at the beginning but then she didn’t respond? Why did she ignore me after a while when she added me on her own initiative? Why did she still get rejected even though I clearly felt she liked me too? Rejection? Why can’t you always catch up with a girl?
In order to prevent you from turning the corner on these questions, today we will talk about some of the minefields you may step into when chasing girls.
Why can’t I always catch up with girls?
1. Love brain troubles
Most boys have very few friends of the opposite sex. Either they are out of reach or they feel it is unnecessary.
Then whenever I meet a girl, I feel that I must either be my girlfriend or say goodbye.
But the more you think this way, the easier it will be to get used to pleasing you. I’ve been thinking about it all day long: What should I do if she doesn’t reply to my messages? What should I do if she doesn’t agree to my invitation to hang out with her?
So I did some crazy things: Don’t you like me? Why are you chatting with me if you don’t like me? The girl still looked confused, she can’t stand you like this.
Therefore, don’t hang yourself on a tree as soon as you get started. Love is a two-way choice. It is really necessary to reduce some purpose.
When you just "have a good impression" of this girl, don't make a decision so quickly that you want to pursue this girl. You can get to know her for a while.
Also get along more with other girls, get to know more girls with the mentality of making friends, and enrich your social circle.
By contrast, you will have a clearer idea of ??what you want, what the other person wants, and whether you are compatible. And many times, love doesn't happen in natural relationships.
2. Overexposure to the sense of need
As soon as we met, I checked in every morning and every night and sent flowers today. I will give you lipstick tomorrow, and I will confess my love the day after tomorrow. Please stay with me. Girls will only praise you for being a good person.
You must know that the development of a relationship is gradual. Before she accumulates some good feelings for you, she will only feel scared by your self-proclaimed expression of love.
If you still want to persist, you will either become a licking dog, or you are on the way to becoming a licking dog.
If we want to let the relationship develop naturally, we must first know what stage the relationship between two people is at, what we can and should not do, so as not to appear too humble or too humble. Cause trouble to the other party.
When we first met, no matter how much you liked me, you couldn’t hold it back. Just maintaining friendly attention was enough. If it was too much, it would be called entanglement, and if it was too much, it would be called harassment.
Then in the friend stage, you can express your appreciation to her. Your eyes are so beautiful.If you want to say something, you can say a few words occasionally, to flirt a little, but don't take away a cloud.
Then slowly start to share some secrets with her and exchange some thoughts. After that, we will think about preparing a surprise confession or something.
3. Self-believed sincerity
No matter how good your conditions are or how sincere your attitude is, you can’t stand it. I don't feel anything about it.
Feelings are often accumulated detail by detail, a casual but sincere compliment from you, a heartfelt chat between you, or watching the sunrise together.
Would a movie be good if it was all about panoramic shots? There must be close-ups. These subtle points can reflect a person's true intentions.
