When falling in love, you will inevitably face the problem of "spending money", especially boys. If you don't spend some money, you will appear stingy. If you spend too much money, your wallet will not be able to bear it. So how should boys spend money? How can you make girls happy without being stingy? Let’s take a look at the best way for couples to spend money and the 4 principles for boys to spend money.
1. Be generous with small money
When getting along with girls, boys must not do it for a little bit. I want to calculate the small amount of money. Besides, a meal really doesn’t cost much. Even if you feel it's not suitable after meeting once, just treat it as a friend. If we have contact in the future, your efforts will not be in vain.
A generous boy must know how to be generous with small money. A meal, a small meeting gift, a date, I believe everyone can afford it.
Even if the relationship fails, at least you have left a good impression in the girl's heart. You know, gold cup and silver cup are not as good as a good reputation. When you truly become a broad-minded, generous and measured boy, the girls you meet will also be the kind of people who take the initiative to ask for AA, pay the bill, and even buy gifts for you.
The equality between boys and girls does not mean that they must spend the same amount of money, but that anyone can be the one who takes the initiative. The key is whether you are worth it.
2. There are comings and goings
Love is a matter between two people, and it is natural to spend money accordingly. Come and go. You can buy her gifts, treat her to dinner and watch movies, but if a girl is willing to have a long-term relationship with you, she should also pay for it. Girls can do these things too.
Then if she doesn’t want to be with you for a long time and has no intention of giving anything, then there is no need for us to waste time with each other, right?
3. Grasp the scale
Most boys are ordinary working-class people, and they are reluctant to buy many things.
Therefore, when boys spend money, they should have an idea of ??the progress of the relationship between you and girls.
For a girl who has not been dating for a long time or even has no confirmed relationship, you can give her a small gift, but don’t rush to give her expensive and big-name gifts, especially those that are beyond your ability.
For girls who really like you, this is actually a kind of pressure, but for girls who don’t like you, this just becomes a great opportunity for her to squeeze you. That's what we call a scumbag.
As for whether the other party is a scumbag, everyone needs to learn to observe the feedback of girls.
If a girl also likes you, on the one hand she mustShe will not be embarrassed to only accept gifts without giving them; on the other hand, she will refuse gifts that are too expensive or look for opportunities to make up for them.
As for a scumbag, she is not only willing to accept you, but she will also use her charm to keep you giving, otherwise she will abandon you and look for the next long-term meal ticket. Because for them, gaining profits is the goal.
So, it is a responsibility to spend money for the girl you like, but at the same time, you should keep your eyes peeled to see if the other person is the right person.
4. Invest in yourself
I found that boys generally seem to be more concerned about sunk costs. Whenever I hear about a couple who broke up after six or seven years of dating, I can't help but sigh: Good guy, you spent your youth raising a girlfriend for someone else.
In order to prevent you from doing such things that you will regret in the future, I sincerely suggest that instead of calculating sunk costs, it is better to invest in yourself.
Because the sunk costs you mentioned include not only the time and money you paid, but also the relationship you had. How can this be calculated clearly?
And it is already in the past. No matter how you calculate things, they won’t make much sense anymore, so it’s better to exit with dignity.
But there is one thing, even if time passes and the feelings disappear, it will always exist and be beneficial to you throughout your life. That is your own growth!
So from now on, you must truly learn to love yourself, learn, make progress, correct your shortcomings, get in touch with outstanding people, and do everything that is beneficial to your growth. things to make yourself a good person.
Excellent people will attract each other, whether on the road of personal growth or in the love market, their value will always increase!
