In most cases, girls like to be humorous and lively at the age of 20, mature and steady at the age of 30, take care of the family at the age of 40, deep and charming at the age of 50, and healthy and free at the age of 60.
And as for boys, they like beauty at the age of twenty, beauty at the age of thirty, beauty at the age of forty, beauty at the age of fifty, and beauty at the age of sixty. It is not until the hormones stop secreting that they become No desires or desires.
This sentence seems a bit one-sided and ridiculing, but if you think about it carefully, it doesn't make sense.
Why do boys always feel inadequate when chasing many older girls?
In fact, the prerequisite for establishing a clear relationship between the sexes mainly relies on two points - One is the novelty, and the other is the impulse of love.
The definition of freshness comes from the visual experience of both men and women, but their judgment standards are completely different.
To a certain extent, men’s aesthetic status has not changed much regarding the visual perception of strangers of the opposite sex. This means that a twenty-year-old young man likes beautiful girls, and when he is thirty, these girls who are in his aesthetic preference will still make his heart flutter.
However, women are completely different, and their aesthetic preferences change with age.
This means that twenty-year-old girls will be attracted by boys who are humorous and handsome, but by the time they are thirty, they will feel that such boys are unreliable and are more inclined to choose mature and steady boys. .
To be honest, if you try to impress a thirty-year-old girl using the same routines and techniques you use when you are twenty-year-old, most of the results will be in vain. To be honest, a thirty-year-old girl cannot be deceived by just saying a few words of love.
That is to say, the people who can really make a 30-year-old girl feel fresh from the first sight are often those boys who speak steadily. Moreover, most of these boys have already started a family and started a business, and eventually got married.
Therefore, many people mistake this novelty bias for the pickiness of older female youths. While picky older women do exist, they are only a minority.
The reason why they are really picky is that they have not met a boy who really impresses them.
At the same time, older young women tend to be more attentive and cautious than younger women in considering the appropriateness of both sexes.
They can no longer afford the risk of meeting a boy who flirts with him and leaves immediately, and at the same time, they are no longer willing to have a fruitless love.
Therefore, the difficulty they externalize is not conservatism and reserve, but a sense of rationality and calmness in their relationship with each other.
Similarly, for young women, the so-called love mainly comes from sweetness and impulsiveness. And for older girls, their love comes fromof loyalty and dependence.
For older young women, "holding hands as soon as they have met a few times, and falling in love after just chatting a few words" will not make them happy, but will make them feel that this Boys are frivolous, casual, and dare not rely on others.
So in comparison, why do you find it so difficult to pursue a girl?
Since you use the methods and techniques that twenty-year-old girls like, it certainly feels easy to pursue a twenty-year-old girl. , at your fingertips. But if you chase older girls the same way you chase little girls, it won't bring much love to them, but a sense of fear of meeting a scumbag.
So why do boys always treat you like a younger brother when they are rejected by older women?
It is precisely because in the process of getting along, you cannot give these girls the right Although the love needs of loyalty and dependence may be played together, in her opinion, you are really not a suitable love or even marriage partner.
There is not much room for error left for them. They have neither the means nor the energy to try the adventurous love of young people.
You will find that although most older girls are difficult to chase, once you catch them, it is easy to get married. In addition to some older money-worshiping women, of course there are.
But many people believe that older single women are not only difficult to woo when they are older, but also difficult to woo when they are young.
In fact, in the marriage and love market, girls like this who have always been difficult to woo are just a minority group.
For most older young women, they once had a passionate love, but this love eventually ended without any problems, forcing them to work in older industries.
Because they have had a failed relationship, they are more cautious and rational. Because they don't settle for less, they need more careful measurement.
Therefore, there is no need for some older young women to sneer at it, and there is no need to put all the material hats of pastoral feminism on the heads of all older young women.
To be honest, there are really very few older girls who play solo, and they once had a period of youth that was not difficult to pursue.
It’s just that they now hope to have a mature, stable, and loyal love, but at this age, the resources they can choose from are not abundant.
Just like those people in the comment area who say that you have to be sincere when chasing young girls, and you have to be real gold when chasing older girls, I really disagree.
This marriage market has very low tolerance for older girls. So we really don’t need to be clever and add fuel to these girls.
What we call pastoral feminism is based on this kind of subjective imagination, materializing the concept of marriage and love, and forcing the opposition between men and women.
The momentary pleasure is small, but the concept of men and women that wrongly guides the deep status quo is the big one.
Then again, I admit that there is money worship in the marriage and love market, but this is only a small group of people.
The reason why an older girl rejects you: usually not because of material things, but because you cannot meet her emotional needs at her current age.
Therefore, the colored glasses should be taken off.
The yin and yang weird older girls really cannot show the wisdom and rationality of these people. Instead, it can be seen that these talents are leeks cut off by pastoral feminism.
