I believe that every single boy wants to find a suitable person to fall in love with. However, the real situation now is that more and more people are eager for love, but they dare not believe in it. Because everyone is afraid of getting hurt, but being alone all the time is not an option. Today we use the elimination method to take stock of those girls who are particularly difficult to pursue for friends who have little love experience.
1. Independent in all aspects
Many boys are familiar with the term "independent woman" But I don’t understand. Independent women have three major characteristics: personality independence, financial independence, and emotional independence.
They have their own ideas in life and career, and rarely need help from others when they encounter any problems. It's like you always ask her out for dinner, but she keeps dating you. What's the point of pursuing her?
Although independent women focus almost all their attention on work and are relatively fragile emotionally, they not only have high demands on themselves, but also have correspondingly higher demands on their partners.
Unless you like her and she also particularly appreciates you, she will not easily have any emotional results with you. They often have clear goals in their relationships, and they often fall in love with the goal of getting married, leaving little time for trial and error.
2. Unequal emotional experience
In relationships, people with rich love experience are less likely to have less love experience. There is no high or low value for people, but it is often difficult to successfully match them.
For example, she, who has been in four relationships in four years of college, and you, who has only had a crush on one girl in five years of work, will have a very difficult time together. Faced with various "challenges".
In the pursuit stage, due to the difference in thinking between men and women, a girl’s social intuition is much higher than that of boys. And because she has richer emotional experience than you, you have an information gap.
At the same time, past emotional experiences have given her a habit of thinking, and she will unconsciously think that you and her ex have similar ways of dealing with the same thing.
In other words, just when you carefully prepare a small gift for her birthday and think she will be satisfied and complacent, it may be an "old scene" for her.
What’s more, people have a comparative mentality. In short, people who have had love experience in these aspects are different from people who have not had any love experience. It is recommended to think twice before pursuing.
3. Girls who don’t like you
In fact, those who can be with girls pursue success. For people, their value must match their own in the eyes of the girls they pursue.But it may not work with other girls.
In other words, a thousand normal girls have a thousand boys they like. In order to meet the most basic needs, there is a rough threshold, but the threshold should not be so high that it filters out 99%. boys.
Friends often say that they cannot pursue the girl they like because their material conditions do not meet the other person’s requirements, or because their appearance cannot meet the other person’s needs.
However, if we think about it carefully, are we really bad, or is her request too high and too unreasonable?
Many people will take it for granted that if they like someone, it is not enough. It's easy. When you meet someone you like, you must chase her. No matter whether she is suitable for you or not, chase her first and then talk about it. When you are hurt, you start to indulge yourself, start to play with other people's feelings, and then no longer believe in love.
Before matching the other person’s value and satisfying the other person’s needs, first think about whether “the value she needs for you” is reasonable.
